My Story
I spent a lot of my life trying to find me.
As a family member, teacher, music minister, and friend I often spent a lot of time showing up how I perceived that others needed me to show up for them. As a result, I never truly spent the time to figure out who I needed to be for me. I didn’t even realize how uncomfortable I had gotten in my own life. But as circumstances changed, I was faced with an increasing amount of friction in my life.
My sister suddenly lost her battle with alcohol addiction. My child developed a chronic illness. I burned myself out teaching during the pandemic. I found myself stuck in a cycle of survival and couldn’t see a clear way out. I knew that something had to change. I was in so much pain I was ready to detonate everything in my life just to get out of it. What I learned was that
We can’t change our life experience unless we change what’s on the inside.
My change started with writing a musical. I had always wanted to write one, and one day, sitting in a teal blue recliner in my living room, I decided to start writing music for a show based on Lewis Carrol’s “Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland.” Writing a show not only pushed me outside of my comfort zone, but it pushed me to start going down rabbit holes.
I started learning more about story structure, which led me to learn about myths and the Hero’s Journey. A series of rabbit holes led me to start learning more about the mind and transformed how I view, well, everything. This is where I learned one of my most important lessons, even though I didn’t know it at the time-
To get ourselves out of a cycle, we have to do something out of our routine.
I have always loved showing up for people when they needed support. My husband once told me that I am the kid who befriends the kid who is sitting alone on the park bench. Coaching was a perfect fit for me to take my life and work experience and channel to help others in a meaningful way.
For when we help others, we inadvertently learn something about ourselves.
If my story and background resonate with you and you are looking for someone to support you on your journey, perhaps you found me for a reason. I hope that through the resources here, on my socials, or through coaching you find something here to take with you on your journey.
"You have to be able to name your truth in order to live it.”
-Laverne Cox
What truths about yourself can you acknowledge and embrace to live more authentically?